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June 30, 2005

Home Should Be A Haven

I have a need to live in an environment that is serene, organized, clean, free of clutter, and pretty to look at. I think a large reason why it's so important to me is that the majority of time, the rest of my life feels so out of control. If my home is under control, it has a huge calming effect over me and provides me with much needed sanity!

My husband doesn't understand this. He thinks my incessant need to maintain order and serenity in my home is more of a personality flaw than a necessity. Perhaps it is. But today I received some validation from good ol' Oprah Winfrey.

She had her designer, Nate, on the show and they talked about how your home is a reflection of yourself and that you should try to make it a sanctuary by surrounding yourself with a space that makes you feel better about yourself. I couldn't agree more. They went on to say that some people buy clothing, shoes, gadgets and things that other people see, but that it would be smarter to buy things for your home that you see because that's where you spend the majority of your time. Makes sense to me.

So did I receive validation for an appropriate way of thinking or do I have a personality flaw? You decide.

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Comments

hmmm, I vote for the latter!

Posted by: kta at June 30, 2005 10:07 PM


Oh I'll second that!

You get validation for your life from watching oprah? Yup, sounds like a mental case to me!

toodles,
SyLviA!

Posted by: sylvie at July 1, 2005 11:31 AM


I'd suggest somewhere in the middle.

It's hard to get my hubby to be clean, but I also realize there are times when I just lay out the mess as well.

Finding a happy medium is the best advice I can give. Guilt trips never work, but neither does cleaning up after him.

If a special occasion arises do your best to help him prepare to clean, encourage, give positve feedback when he does. It's been the only way I've seen progress in this area.

Posted by: mascotnet at July 1, 2005 12:14 PM


After 34 years of marraige I agree My home is the extention of my wife, some time its drive me chazy. all in all I like how my home looks.

Do I help as mucch as I should no But I keep trying.

Posted by: pop at July 1, 2005 03:12 PM


I wholeheartedly agree w/ Oprah and Nate. My home is very uncluttered and I try to keep it neat and pretty even when it's just Ben and me hanging out all day... because it makes me feel good. I feel all stressed out when it's messy and there's crap laying around everywhere. I will admit, I am currently guilty of having icky bathrooms though.. haven't gotten to those this week. I just try not to think about it! ;)

Posted by: Erin at July 1, 2005 06:38 PM


ha! I WOULD have that type of environment if this little dynamo would stop freaking throwing everything on the floor!

Posted by: Mrs. Belle at July 3, 2005 10:13 PM


I totally agree with you (and Oprah)! When my house is clean and neat is the only time I feel really calm and content and can actually think about doing thinks I want to do. And my husband would probably agree with your hubby 100% about the "personality flaw"!

Posted by: Carolyn at July 5, 2005 11:02 PM